Today is Tuesday March 29, 2016.  Hi how was your day today?  I would like to offer up a question to you today.
Are you letting your past dictate your future?  Are you letting the negative things from your past define what your future will be like?
While you cannot change the past you can learn from it.  Get rid of the negative thoughts that enter  your mind and replace them with positive thoughts.  I had to use some cognitive restructuring in order to change my behavior.
  I put a rubber band on my wrist and every time I realized a negative thought
I immediately snapped it. Yes it hurt but it got my attention and thoughts away from that negative thought.  Then I used post its all over the house where I was sure to look.  The mirrors in the bathroom and in my bedroom.  The kitchen cabinets,  the refrigerator, the dishwasher.  These post its had positive thoughts on them. That really helped guide me to a better way of thinking.  Try it, or find your own way to change your line of thinking.  Good luck and God Bless!

I want to send special blessings to all today.  Whatever your higher power or creator is may you have a beautiful day.  I know the holidays are especially difficult for some so a special prayer today for comfort in the memories you hold dear and close to your heart.  Equally, if the holidays were full of strife, tension and fighting may you find peace and healing today and always.  Happy Easter!  God Bless you and whatever you do today remember God promise of peace and comfort.

Today March 26,2016 I worked all day.  I was taught something in a new department.  I was not sure I was up to this challenge but  was willing to try.  I made it through the day and was definitely tired when I was through.  What is the challenge you are facing? Is it getting up in the morning,  getting that first step in on your exercise,  going to work or school.  Maybe your first step is admitting something that you have been denying to yourself.   If you remember that you are not alone and God is with you that first step is a bit less scary or challenging.  Once you take that first step it gets easier. Start small if you need too and work your way to the next step. You can do it.  Remember, there are others out there who took that first step.  Find out if there are any groups dealing with your "first step" and see if you can  join or at least talk with someone.  They may able to help you find others dealing with your situation.  God Bless You.

Today is March 25, 2016.  Good Friday for those of us that are of the Christian faith.  Today I thank God for all that I have and have experienced in my life. This makes me who I am.  All of your experiences make you who you are.  All the good, all the bad, the addictions, the successes and the failures.  They are all a part of me.  I am human and have made mistakes.  I learn from them and change what I can.  Most importantly I forgive myself.  It is hard but I realize I am not perfect and I am a work in progress.  I am Gods artwork.  You are Gods artwork. We are all Gods artwork. Be patient with yourself.  You are not perfect. If you have to; forgive yourself.  I can tell you that forgiving myself is what I found to be hardest for me to do.  God is creating a masterpiece in you. Try each day to go forward.  Some days will be two steps forward, the next is one step back.  Take life minute by minute, half hour by half hour or hour by hour.  Be gentle with yourself, especially if you have had a traumatic experience.  Take your time and go slow.   God Bless you.

This is a good day rejoice and be glad.  I know it is hard to get up and get going when your world has been shattered by evil and hate but don' t give up.  There is always hope for a new day and a new beginning whatever has happened in your life.  You are loved and you are important to someone you may not even know; but you are.  God  bless you and rest and peace.

This is a good day rejoice and be glad.  I know it is hard to get up and get going when your world has been shattered by evil and hate but don' t give up.  There is always hope for a new day and a new beginning whatever has happened in your life.  You are loved and you are important to someone you may not even know; but you are.  God  bless you and rest and peace.

Today is a difficult day for those affected by the bombings in Brussels, Belgium.  Stay strong!! The scurge of terrorism must be fought.  
    Unfortunately, this specific form of violence and hate is what has become the most damaging to the human race.
     They choose to use this form to mame and traumatize those who live in a country that promotes peace such as Belgium, America, Spain, Britain and other countries that support and fight for peace on earth. Keep your faith and pray for peace.
    That is what they want to take away.  Be strong and trust in the Lord.

Today is March 18, 2016.  I hope you had a good week. The weekend is here and for those of you that are suffering I hope you find someone to talk about what is happening in your life to help you make good choices.  Peace

I was a new person at the elementary school and did not have a lot of friends. As the years passed I did not fit in with the well to do clicks or the jocks.  So wanting to have friends I turned to the troublemakers and found acceptance.
I also learned how to smoke and drink alcohol.  I found out that kids were afraid of me so I used it to my advantage.
I can tell you that I made mistakes and was mean.  This was the only way I was able to feel accepted.  If I could I would change that part of my life.  Instead of what I chose to do I would have looked for acceptance through my church and looked for friends there. Please dont make the same mistakes.  I deeply regret some of the things I did and life is to short for regrets, and definitely too short to cover up the pain and rejection with alcohol and drugs.  There are phone numbers to call and get help or e-mail me with your feelings; and how to deal with situations.  I would be able to help give a different outlook or choices.  You are not alone and you are loved!!  Find your sunshine and let it shine you are beautiful!

Good day to you all.  Happy St. Patricks day!  Today I am sharing a link about bullying.  If you know someone that is struggling with this problem please share this link.  It may save a life today.  God Bless.
http://www.stopbullying.gov/

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy; whether it is an expected passing or sudden and unexpected.  Let the grief process flow.  You will have good days and bad. There will be times and days that are harder than others.
Know that your loved one is at peace now. Their struggle is over.  They will still be with you in your heart and in your memories.  You have their love and caring in you.  Be gentle towards yourself this traumatic event will take time to adjust too.

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy; whether it is an expected passing or sudden and unexpected.  Let the grief process flow.  You will have good days and bad. There will be times and days that are harder than others.
Know that your loved one is at peace now. Their struggle is over.  They will still be with you in your heart and in your memories.  You have their love and caring in you.  Be gentle towards yourself this traumatic event will take time to adjust too.

A thought or two. Life is too short to live in fear  reprisal or shame or if you are ever going to have friends.  There are people like you all around. Love yourself enough to look around you, go for a walk to the park, the library or the store.  If you get out and get a fresh outlook, the things you see will  change and ultimately your outlook on life change.

How was your Wednesday?  Good I am hoping.  I want to talk about bullying tonight.  If you are with someone who is making fun of someone because they are different or being mean because someone is dressed different you are accepting this behavior and saying its ok to do even if you are not doing it. Dont be afraid to stick up for that person.  You may be their only hope.  Dont let someone hurt another because you are afraid to stand apart from them.  Let your light shine and be yourself. Jesus says,"Love others as I have loved you."

Hi how was your day?  Tonight I want to remind you to keep your doors and windows locked.  It is not ok to believe that you will be safe especially if you are a woman.  I take precautions and double check when I get up during the night. Please be safe even if you are struggling to be happy. You are loved by somebody.

Today I had the privilege to work next to a woman in her second fight with cancer and second treatment of chemo.  She was upbeat and friendly to everyone as she checked people out. God Bless her and all struggling with Cancer.

Hello and Welcome

     Hi and welcome to my blog.  I chose the name The Saving Grace because by Gods holy grace I have made it through my life and the challenges I have faced.  I never thought I would experience some of the situations I have and with his strength and a good support system I have managed to stay sane during some of the most troubling and trying times in my life.
     From my childhood troubles to my children and drugs and alcohol.  My youngest and my oldest are still struggling so I keep praying that one day they will see that they can live without the assistance of those crutches and have a good life.  I chose Psychology to help myself and others to deal with the curve balls that life throws at you and I have learned a lot.  I love to help others if they are stuck in a position where they aren't sure what to do or how to respond in a given situation.  Recently I have held group meetings at the libraries where parents having legal trouble with their children can get support and assistance in how to see their loved one and what the rules are and the process to go through if their child happens to be convicted of a crime.
     Unfortunately, I have more experience with this type of situation than I ever wanted but I have grown from it and what I have learned has helped other parents in a similar situation with their children.  I certainly never raised my kids to do some of the things they have and to this day do not understand what happened or where I went wrong or even if I did go wrong.   I have experienced the gamete of emotions that come with this experience so I can help others get past the guilt, shame, anger, embarrassment, shock and the myriad of other emotions that a parent feels when their child is convicted.  I also was bullied growing up at home and at school so I can help whatever age group deal with bullying.  I will build your self confidence and self esteem with little tricks I learned and it really did help.  I can also point you in the direction of other resources that are helpful.  Just know you are loved, you are a valued member of this world and you deserve happiness in your life no matter what.

I look forward with anticipation and hope to hear from some of you out there.  I leave you with this verse and will check in with you soon.  John 3:16  "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life".

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This will be a place to promote healing and build positive affirmations. To heal the hurting soul from any type of loss or sorrow; from losing a loved one, to suffering from being bullied to dealing with changes and family dynamics.