Good evening it is June 17, 2016.  It has been 5 days since the Orlando shootings of innocent people.
I continue to pray for the deceased, the survivors and all involved from first responders to families of this atrocity.
Pray for peace.  You are loved and important in this life.  You matter.

Desiderata
Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

My deepest condolences to all who are suffering in Orlando and the country by the hateful act of murder that occurred there. I pray for those that are injured and those that lost their lives in such a violent manner.  Pray for peace.

Hello it is June 9, 2016.  A simple prayer tonight.  Be at peace within.  Be at peace with the decisions you have made, the choices you have made and the people you let into or out of your life.  Be at peace with the decisions that were not so comfortable to make knowing your life is better because of it.  You matter and you are loved.  Peace

Good afternoon today is June 7, 2016.  Todays message is simple.  Be grateful and be kind.  Some people have such bad days they wish they wouldn't have gotten out of bed today.
One kind word can turn someones day totally around and make it an awesome day.  Just as being grateful can open your compassion and showing kindness for others brings a smile to the recipients heart as well as your own.
You are loved. You do matter.  Peace

Happy June 3, 2016.  Today is about acceptance. Sometimes it is easier to accept the reality that you are never going to have that relationship with certain people and it's time to let them go.  For whatever reasons some people like to lead you on to think you might have a good relationship with them.  Then you find you are right back where the relationship stagnated in the first place. Time to let go of that disappointment.  You have been carrying it around for way too long. Accept the fact that what you hope for will never be.  Don't waste anymore time being pulled in on a fishing line to be let down again.
Time to find someone that believes in you and respects your efforts to be all you can be.  You deserve good friends that have faith that you can do anything you put your mind too.
You matter and you are loved.  Peace

Hi today is June 1, 2016.  We have made it through Memorial day and school is about out for the summer.  Do you have plans?
It is helpful if you can volunteer or go to a recreaction center.  Some children cannot afford to go to a rec. center so the Boys and Girls club was developed.  This helps children by having a place to go to have a good time without getting in trouble.  Be kind.  Help children to change their mindset.  Thet are our future.  You do matter and you are loved.  Peace

Good evening it is May 29, 2016.  I hope you have had a nice weekend so far.  I know there are times when one more day is too much to take.  If a day is too hard, try an hour, or a half hour or 15 minutes.  You can get through it; then as the rough patch passes you will start to feel the time getting easier to deal with whatever you are going through.
You do matter, You are loved,  Peace

Taking care of you

Hello, today is May 28, 2016.  Forty years ago I lost my brother to suicide.  It seems like it was just recently.  The wound has healed but the scar remains.  The pain is sometimes fresh, but not as raw as it was all those years ago and not as often.  I live with it.  I find it is easier to deal with the memories and pain of losing someone (or fur kids) you love by staying busy.  I can keep busy by cleaning the house, by visiting others, volunteering, reading a good book, taking a drive or just enjoy hiking.  Being in nature sustains me in times of need.  I love to cook and plant different flowers or plants.  Working with the earth is cathartic and cooking is too.  The important thing is to do what you love.  It really does help in difficult times.  You do matter and are loved.  Peace will come to you and you will notice that one day you dont hurt as bad as you have.  That is a good feeling.  You are loved.  It does get easier with time, give yourself time.  You are loved and important.

For some people the stress and pain may be too great to bear.  Let me remind you all of a very important website, www.suicidepreventionlifeline. org Please do not make a permanent decision until you talk with someone.  You are loved, you do matter.  The phone number 1-800-273-8255.  Peace

This weekend is very difficult for those that have lost loved ones in past wars as well as the war on terrorism now.  This is the time to think of our freedom and what it means.  To honor all  those that serve and protect us.  Take time to rest, cry, laugh and remember, but also remember the good times.
Those memories will get you through the rough spots.  Love your children, or fur-babies your loved ones spirit is alive in them.  Be kind.  We can't be strong all the time so take your quiet time when you can. You matter and are loved.  Peace.

Living each day to the fullest.

There are times when I wish I would have responded differently to situations that I encountered.  Unfortunately we cannot change the past.   However; we can change our responses to situations we come across in the future.  Make a conscious decision to think differently about how you respond in certain situations.  It may change your life!  You are loved and you do matter.  Peace

Good morning, today is Tuesday May 24, 2016.  Today is about courage.  We all have courage.  When you get up, get dressed, eat breakfast, and get ready to start your day, you are using courage to go out to meet the world and what it holds for you.  You are strong, confident and ready to make the best of today.  Don't let others take that away.  You matter and you are loved.  Peace.

Today  Monday again May 23, 2016.  Hard believe it is the end of May. The beginning of another work week.  I hope the week goes smoothly for you.  Stay strong be happy and dont worry about what happened yesterday.  You can't change that, you  can change your response to what someone tells you.  Your reputation speaks for itself.  If you  a trouble maker you will be known as one.  On the flip side if you are a  kind, loving person you will be known as one.  Let people talk, you are not responsible for them and their problems.  You are the only one responsible for your actions and reactions.  You are loved and you matter.  Peace.

Good evening it is Saturday May 14, 2016.  I want to talk about healing in spite of the obstacles put in your path.  There are many ways to start the healing process.  Hopefully you are talking with someone to get through the feelings you are experiencing  (professional  or not). There are many ways to start your body and mind healing. Yoga, walking, exercise, ride bikes, reading, hobbies, painting, writing and the list goes on.  The important thing is taking that first step.  It doesnt have to be a big step, it can be something as little as sitting on your porch or going to the mail box.   It gets easier after you make that choice; to dare to take that first step toward healing.   You are loved and you do matter.  You are loved.  Peace

Good evening it is May 13, 2016.  I want to talk about boundaries tonight.  There are healthy boundaries and unhealthy boundaries.
Sometimes healthy boundaries are not learned as a child grows.  Children learn by example and are taught whatever the parent learned as they were growing up.  In almost every instance of any kind of abuse it was learned, experienced, or witnessed while the child is/was growing up.  This is unhealthy boundaries.  Some of the most important things are discarded as the dysfunctional family grows.  Things such as morals, values and the difference between right and wrong are not taught and are hopefully learned later in life.  Parents do make mistakes and are not perfect.  Parenting is a learning experience.  There isn't a guide book to teach us how to parent.  Thus, unhealthy boundaries, abuse of every kind, is a learned trait.  It can also be unlearned.  It is definitely a challenge and difficult but it can be done.  The choice is simple.  Create healthy boundaries with help from a parenting class or other professionals, like a counselor, and create the change you want in your family or live the unhealthy dysfunction and pass it on from one generation to the next.  The choice is yours.  You are loved and you do matter.  Peace

Good morning today is May 12, 2016.   National suicide hotline number is 1-800-273-8255.   www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  It is a beautiful day but for some it may be a dark day with nothing to look forward too.  They may be thinking there isn't anyone that cares for me; or why am I living, no one loves me.  Or maybe; the only one I loved is gone so I will join them.
Please do not make a permanent decision to take your life.  Everyone matters.  You matter and are here for a reason.  No matter what you are going through or how young or old, you can talk to someone about it.  Sometimes you just need an outsider to listen and care.  You are loved and important in this world.  www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Good evening today is May 10, 2016.  I hope you had a great Tuesday.  I hope it was full of new beginnings and opportunities for you.  A lot of people are suffering the effects of the weather of the last few weeks.  A simple prayer tonight for those that have lost their homes and/or missing loved ones.
Lord I pray for strength and comfort for those who have lost their homes, their family members or loved ones in the tornados, fires and flooding the past few months.  I ask that you cover them with a blanket of love and kindness to guide them through this turbulent time in their lives.  Amen.

Good evening.  It is Monday May 9, 2016.  Are you stuggling in life?  The weather, the floods, life decisions troubling you?  God is with you through it all.  Trust that he will take care of you. You are blessed and loved.  Peace.

Today is Sunday May 8, 2016.  Happy Mothers Day to everyone!  If you are struggling with loss I urge you to find someone to talk too.  You are important, valued, loved and cherished.  Do not suffer in silence and alone.  You are not alone.  Peace

Good afternoon, today is May 3, 2016. Looking through family pictures today I feel very blessed in my life. It has been a struggle and at times I thought I couldn't go on but I persevered and prayed a lot. I am happy with who I am but never stop trying to be a better person. If your feeling down today count your blessings. You can always rebuild and renew "things" but the people that come in and out of your life are the true blessing in your life. You are blessed and loved. Peace

If you are struggling with your children making bad choices I can help you deal with the guilt, shame, anger, and a miriade of other emotions and feelings you experience.  You can message me or send me a message through my facebook page.  Even if you did everything you thought you could and your children deliberately make the wrong choices.  Your problems will be kept confidential.  I am ethically bound by my profession and hold that very dear to me.

Tonight a simple prayer lord. Let those that are suffering from the weather find safety.  We pray that those that have lost family or friends be comforted as they experience anguish and pain over their losses.  May the sun shine soon in their lives again. Amen

Good evening, today is Saturday April 30, 2016.  I hope you are doing well.  Because it is gray and cold outside
it is a good time to talk about depression.  It is easier on days like today to feel sadder, lonelier, fatigued, no motivation, or more alone.  It is important if you feel this way; to talk to someone close to you. They may make you feel better just by talking to them.  Rest if you can.  It is ok to take a break from life and treat yourself extra  special.  Ask someone over to visit and have a relaxing cup of tea.  You do not have to suffer in silence.  Do something that makes you feel better.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace

Good evening! Today is April 29, 2016.   It is wet, cold and gray today.  It is also Friday; which means the start of a weekend.  I want to talk about love and healing tonight.  I believe there is great healing power in showing love.  I have advanced my own healing by helping others.  Of course, you have to show it in the right way.  I show my love through caring for others. Especially the elderly and the young, I love to hear different stories from the elderly and marvel at where they have been and where they are now.
The young are just as important because they are our future.  I watch them as they learn new things and wonder what they are feeling.
One way I share my love and talents is cooking.  I love the challenge of trying to cook something new and baking for others. That is one way I show that someone is important.  Who will you share your love with?  How will you show you care?  It can be as small as saying Hi I am thinking if you, how are you doing; to doing something very unexpected for someone.  Just a thought.  You may make someones day brighter than it was.  Be kind.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace

Today is Wednesday, April 27, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I found myself thinking today how it would be easier to make decisions if it didn't affect other people that are close to you.  So many times a decision is made with little regard to how it will affect others.  A difficult area in a black and white world....

Good afternoon!  Today is April 28, 2016.  I want to talk about bullying today. It is NOT ok.  As I heard one boys story it was upsetting to hear the " security officer" was not doing his job.  If something happens, no matter who it is, if you have a security officer at the school that is supposed to be watching for suspicious behavior or bullying and is not actively involved in stopping that behavior then they will be held accountable.  The school district, which is in this case Douglas County I believe will also be held accountable.  This type of behavior cannot go on.  Especially if you are tired of rising taxes to make up for the lawsuits. Parents teach your children now before it gets out of hand like Columbine did!

Does anyone else besides me feel like they need a serious vacation?!  Today is Tuesday April 26, 2016.  The storm blew in over the mountains today dropping the temperature by about 20 degrees.  Helped others get prepared for the day,.
Volunteered to drive to appointments and the store.  Brought roast and fixins for lunch with a senior.  Helping others is a great way to spend your day.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace.

When we go so fast through our day I wonder how much quality time it was.  If you don't take time to slow down and pace yourself your days will turn into weeks, then months, then years.  Where is the joy of watching your children grow, was it spent hurrying them out the door to school to band practice, to sports, to music or dance lessons.  If you also work it is doubly hard to do all and be all.  Slow down and enjoy the moments with your children or family.  As the song goes "your gonna miss these days,  your gonna want them back."  You are loved and blessed. Be in  Peace

1. Happy Sunday to you!  Today was a great day and weather wise it was just as nice. I want to talk about how we all go so fast to get everything done that by the end of the day we can't remember where we were at 11 a.m. or what we did.  Continued....

Hi today is Saturday April 23, 2016.  I hope your day was splenid!  I want to talk about laughter today.  I seriously don't know how I would have made it through some trying times without laughter in my life.  When we can laugh at ourselves it begins a healing process fo within. You may not even realize it until you feel a little lighter like some weight is being lifted from yourself.  You will feel a peace come over you.  It took me a long time to get to that place.  After weeping and crying and getting angry the calm sets in and you feel like doing something.  For me at first I was drinking and doing drugs, partying so I would not have to deal with the pain.  After I got pregnant my life changed.  It was very hard when your heart has been ripped open and the hurt and pain is unbearable.  Especially for those of you that have had a loved one violently taken from you.  I started  staying home after work and watching movies on t.v. or go to a show, I volunteered at VFW and started  a new hobby.  I went to counseling for myself and it helped a lot.  What are you going to begin with?   Please start soon because life is too short to live unhappy. You are loved and blessed. Be at peace.

Good evening I hope your Friday was the finish of a good week.  Today I want to talk about being lonely.  You can be lonely in a room full of people or by yourself.  Yes it is weird but true.  If you are lonely I recommend that you find something to fill your time.  Some examples are; call a friend to meet for coffee, read a book, go to a show or out to eat.  Go to the gym or take a walk in a park or in your neighborhood.  If you are lonely and in room of people try talking to someone close to you.  Even a smile can  break the ice.  The key is to be comfortable with yourself first.  When I drove I would not have the radio on so I could concentrate on driving .  I got used to myself and my thoughts.  I got used to being with just myself.  At times I would pray.  There is a peace in solitude and you can think clearly without distractions from others.  Thats a good time to make decisions or jot down your thoughts then talk with your loved one about it.  If you are not comfortable alone then maybe there is a group you can go to like Toasters, a group that helps build confidence speaking skills.  You are loved.  Peace

A Mans Prayer

Dear Lord I am weary today.  I have worked hard and long most of my life.  I have given and helped others which you know.  My children do not appreciate the things they have or the time I share with them.  I am tired of those that complain of not having enough when people are starving.  I am tired of people stealing, robbing or murdering because they need a fix.
  My dear child, he said, Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.  Matthew 11:28-30
You are blessed.  Be at peace.

My heart and prayers go out to those that have lost a loved one through homicide.  I have no experience with this and would urge those of you that have lost a loved one this way to fnd a good counselor and group that can help you deal with your grief and emotions. God  Bless you and give you peace and strength.

My brothers spirit came to me the night he died and said goodbye to me.  The anniversary of his death always has a special meaning to me. If you know someone who is having a hard time dealing with life or see something is a little off; ask if they would like to get a cup of coffee or tea and visit.  It doesn't matter if they are young or old, take time to listen and care about others.  You may be saving a life.   The same with people who are "loners", or those who are being bullied or made fun of because they are different.  Children can be especially cruel to others just to fit in with a certain group of people.  Talk to your children, ask them how their day was and if anything happened during their day.  Chances are they will want to share their day and they may have questions about something that happened. It also works if you notice a change in your childs behavior and you can't pinpoint the problem but something is off.  You can reinforce the childs thoughts about right and wrong during these conversations and how others are treated will naturally follow and how they treat others will be reinforced as well.  You are a blessing.  Peac

My brother and I did not have a good relationship.  I think because I wanted him to like me so much and I wanted to be like him that we fought all the time.  His attitude towards me changed about 6 months before he died.  He started being friendly towards me and I think it was because of his girlfriend at  the time.  He had never really liked me and I was a little apprehensive about his change of heart.  I felt that we had  come to a kind of  truce in our relationship.  That lasted about 5 months.

Today we will approach losing a loved one through homicide or suicide. I have experience with one of these by the suicide of my brother. I do not know how I would deal with the homicide of a loved one. I have had a lot of death affect my life and lost a lot of loved ones. I think besides the loss of my father; the most painful was the loss of my brother. I then lost my uncle two weeks after my brother and that was not comprehensible to me. Being in a state of shock when I lost my brother I was not in a place to accept the reality of losing my uncle. He was the closest to me on my fathers side and it was too much for me to bear. At 18 years old I acted out. I drank and partied because it was easier for me to do than deal with the reality of losing my brother.

Family dynamics and changes also happen  because of career changes and role changes.  The roles within a family may change suddenly because of job loss, relationship changes or even death of a spouse or partner.  Lets address the death of a partner or spouse.  This could be sudden and unexpected.  There are similarities between divorce and death and we will address this later on. If death is the case be extra careful with yourself and any children.  Even if the death is expected this is a very traumatic time and may take a long time to recover from. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process.
 While the pain of losing a loved one will dull with time; it will not fully go away.  You will learn to live with the reality and some days will be better than others so be gentle with yourself and don't expect too much from yourself or children.  If you feel like it, after a little time you may think about joining a grief recovery group.  This can be beneficial to you and you might find a group for children as well.

Today is April 13, 2016.  It's a beautiful morning today and I hope your day is going well.  I would like to talk about dynamics of a family today and how important it is to pay attention to your family atmosphere.  A lot of  children are confused in todays world and other children do not make it easier.  If you take time to talk with your children about their day and make them feel like they are an important part of the family unit your efforts to communicate with them will be rewarded and your relationship with them wil improve.

Today is April 12, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I want to talk about acceptance today.  Thoughts to ponder on are how do you communicate with your child. Do they feel accepted and loved? Or do they feel like they are in the way; that you don't care for them oe dont have time for them?  Pay attention to the children.  They treat others how they are treated.  Maybe we need to slow down and give time to them and make sure they know how much they are loved.  That thwy sre a valued member of the family.

Today is April 12, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I want to talk about acceptance today.  Thoughts to ponder on are how do you communicate with your child. Do they feel accepted and loved? Or do they feel like they are in the way; that you don't care for them or dont have time for them?  Pay attention to the children.  They treat others how they are treated.  Maybe we need to slow down and give time to them and make sure they know how much they are loved.  That they are a valued member of the family.

Good Monday to you.  Today is April 11, 2016 already.  I find myself being grateful for everyone in my life today.  Life is such a precious gift. I encourage you all today to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you. You never know when they will be taken out of your life for good.  You are blessed. Peace.

Today I want to share story. When I moved out of my ex- husbands apartment with my kids I wanted to affect change in my life as well as the childrens life.  I  was tired of the yelling and screaming as a way to communicate. It took a lot of commitment and communication changes to stop the bad communication habits that we had let grow like a weed in a garden.  I wanted to start a new way to talk and listen to each other.   It was a long process to change the way we communicated with each other and stop the blame game. It also took a lot of counseling and commitment to change.   It can be done.  Are you struggling to communicate with someone you love?  Have a talk with the person. Explain to them that you are not happy with the way you  talk with them and how it turns into a blame game or a yelling match.  Get them to think about how you both have lost the way you want to talk to each other.  Then make a plan, set a date on when you both want to start and have some options for how you want to begin the change.  Lastly, give it time to change.  It won't happen over night but things will start to move into a positive state and start to change.  Good luck and God Bless!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference!

This helped me especially at times when I wanted someones behavior to change.  It helped me realize that maybe I cannot change someones behavior; (like my childrens) but I could change my responses to the behavior.  It was hard to remember this so I had to concentrate on the prayer.
Remember you are not perfect and it takes time to cgange; not just for you but anyone else s behavior you want to change.  Patience and communication is key.  You cannot place blame or it will shut down any efforts you are trying to achieve.  Maybe it will help you with what you are dealing with today.  God Bless you.

Today Monday April 4, 2016. How was your day?  Was it a struggle just to get out of bed and face the day?  You got up anyway; didn't you?  If you did, good for you.  The day is at an end.  Tomorrow will be a new day.  Whatever challenges, heartaches or disappoinments you faced today they are done.  Be at peace and rest in the lord.  Cast your worries on the lord.  He is looking after you.  He has you in the palm of his hand.  It may look bleak from where you are but God can take care of you worries.  Trust in him to take care of you.  At the right time and in his time he will take care of your worries.  Bless you tonight.  Peace

Today April 3, 1981 I had a blessing in my life. My son Steve was born.  Children are a huge blessing in a persons life.  Cherish your children they are our future.  Raise them with love and respect for themselves and others.

Good morning.  It is Sunday April 3, 2016. Rejoice and be glad in the day the lord has made.  How are you feeling today?  If you are feeling ovwrshadowed by doubt or fear.  Remember the lord your God is with you.  You are loved.

How is your Saturday going?  Good I hope.  Are you struggling today with something or someone?  The lord says to be strong and be of good courage the lord your God is with you.  Have courage to stand up for what is right.  If you know something is wrong. Bring it to someones attention.  Then it is up to them to bring about change and if you dont see cgange try someone else. Keep going until it is corrected.  You are loved.

Today is Tuesday March 29, 2016.  Hi how was your day today?  I would like to offer up a question to you today.
Are you letting your past dictate your future?  Are you letting the negative things from your past define what your future will be like?
While you cannot change the past you can learn from it.  Get rid of the negative thoughts that enter  your mind and replace them with positive thoughts.  I had to use some cognitive restructuring in order to change my behavior.
  I put a rubber band on my wrist and every time I realized a negative thought
I immediately snapped it. Yes it hurt but it got my attention and thoughts away from that negative thought.  Then I used post its all over the house where I was sure to look.  The mirrors in the bathroom and in my bedroom.  The kitchen cabinets,  the refrigerator, the dishwasher.  These post its had positive thoughts on them. That really helped guide me to a better way of thinking.  Try it, or find your own way to change your line of thinking.  Good luck and God Bless!

I want to send special blessings to all today.  Whatever your higher power or creator is may you have a beautiful day.  I know the holidays are especially difficult for some so a special prayer today for comfort in the memories you hold dear and close to your heart.  Equally, if the holidays were full of strife, tension and fighting may you find peace and healing today and always.  Happy Easter!  God Bless you and whatever you do today remember God promise of peace and comfort.

Today March 26,2016 I worked all day.  I was taught something in a new department.  I was not sure I was up to this challenge but  was willing to try.  I made it through the day and was definitely tired when I was through.  What is the challenge you are facing? Is it getting up in the morning,  getting that first step in on your exercise,  going to work or school.  Maybe your first step is admitting something that you have been denying to yourself.   If you remember that you are not alone and God is with you that first step is a bit less scary or challenging.  Once you take that first step it gets easier. Start small if you need too and work your way to the next step. You can do it.  Remember, there are others out there who took that first step.  Find out if there are any groups dealing with your "first step" and see if you can  join or at least talk with someone.  They may able to help you find others dealing with your situation.  God Bless You.

Today is March 25, 2016.  Good Friday for those of us that are of the Christian faith.  Today I thank God for all that I have and have experienced in my life. This makes me who I am.  All of your experiences make you who you are.  All the good, all the bad, the addictions, the successes and the failures.  They are all a part of me.  I am human and have made mistakes.  I learn from them and change what I can.  Most importantly I forgive myself.  It is hard but I realize I am not perfect and I am a work in progress.  I am Gods artwork.  You are Gods artwork. We are all Gods artwork. Be patient with yourself.  You are not perfect. If you have to; forgive yourself.  I can tell you that forgiving myself is what I found to be hardest for me to do.  God is creating a masterpiece in you. Try each day to go forward.  Some days will be two steps forward, the next is one step back.  Take life minute by minute, half hour by half hour or hour by hour.  Be gentle with yourself, especially if you have had a traumatic experience.  Take your time and go slow.   God Bless you.

This is a good day rejoice and be glad.  I know it is hard to get up and get going when your world has been shattered by evil and hate but don' t give up.  There is always hope for a new day and a new beginning whatever has happened in your life.  You are loved and you are important to someone you may not even know; but you are.  God  bless you and rest and peace.

This is a good day rejoice and be glad.  I know it is hard to get up and get going when your world has been shattered by evil and hate but don' t give up.  There is always hope for a new day and a new beginning whatever has happened in your life.  You are loved and you are important to someone you may not even know; but you are.  God  bless you and rest and peace.

Today is a difficult day for those affected by the bombings in Brussels, Belgium.  Stay strong!! The scurge of terrorism must be fought.  
    Unfortunately, this specific form of violence and hate is what has become the most damaging to the human race.
     They choose to use this form to mame and traumatize those who live in a country that promotes peace such as Belgium, America, Spain, Britain and other countries that support and fight for peace on earth. Keep your faith and pray for peace.
    That is what they want to take away.  Be strong and trust in the Lord.

Today is March 18, 2016.  I hope you had a good week. The weekend is here and for those of you that are suffering I hope you find someone to talk about what is happening in your life to help you make good choices.  Peace

I was a new person at the elementary school and did not have a lot of friends. As the years passed I did not fit in with the well to do clicks or the jocks.  So wanting to have friends I turned to the troublemakers and found acceptance.
I also learned how to smoke and drink alcohol.  I found out that kids were afraid of me so I used it to my advantage.
I can tell you that I made mistakes and was mean.  This was the only way I was able to feel accepted.  If I could I would change that part of my life.  Instead of what I chose to do I would have looked for acceptance through my church and looked for friends there. Please dont make the same mistakes.  I deeply regret some of the things I did and life is to short for regrets, and definitely too short to cover up the pain and rejection with alcohol and drugs.  There are phone numbers to call and get help or e-mail me with your feelings; and how to deal with situations.  I would be able to help give a different outlook or choices.  You are not alone and you are loved!!  Find your sunshine and let it shine you are beautiful!

Good day to you all.  Happy St. Patricks day!  Today I am sharing a link about bullying.  If you know someone that is struggling with this problem please share this link.  It may save a life today.  God Bless.
http://www.stopbullying.gov/

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy; whether it is an expected passing or sudden and unexpected.  Let the grief process flow.  You will have good days and bad. There will be times and days that are harder than others.
Know that your loved one is at peace now. Their struggle is over.  They will still be with you in your heart and in your memories.  You have their love and caring in you.  Be gentle towards yourself this traumatic event will take time to adjust too.

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy; whether it is an expected passing or sudden and unexpected.  Let the grief process flow.  You will have good days and bad. There will be times and days that are harder than others.
Know that your loved one is at peace now. Their struggle is over.  They will still be with you in your heart and in your memories.  You have their love and caring in you.  Be gentle towards yourself this traumatic event will take time to adjust too.

A thought or two. Life is too short to live in fear  reprisal or shame or if you are ever going to have friends.  There are people like you all around. Love yourself enough to look around you, go for a walk to the park, the library or the store.  If you get out and get a fresh outlook, the things you see will  change and ultimately your outlook on life change.

How was your Wednesday?  Good I am hoping.  I want to talk about bullying tonight.  If you are with someone who is making fun of someone because they are different or being mean because someone is dressed different you are accepting this behavior and saying its ok to do even if you are not doing it. Dont be afraid to stick up for that person.  You may be their only hope.  Dont let someone hurt another because you are afraid to stand apart from them.  Let your light shine and be yourself. Jesus says,"Love others as I have loved you."

Hi how was your day?  Tonight I want to remind you to keep your doors and windows locked.  It is not ok to believe that you will be safe especially if you are a woman.  I take precautions and double check when I get up during the night. Please be safe even if you are struggling to be happy. You are loved by somebody.

Today I had the privilege to work next to a woman in her second fight with cancer and second treatment of chemo.  She was upbeat and friendly to everyone as she checked people out. God Bless her and all struggling with Cancer.

Hello and Welcome

     Hi and welcome to my blog.  I chose the name The Saving Grace because by Gods holy grace I have made it through my life and the challenges I have faced.  I never thought I would experience some of the situations I have and with his strength and a good support system I have managed to stay sane during some of the most troubling and trying times in my life.
     From my childhood troubles to my children and drugs and alcohol.  My youngest and my oldest are still struggling so I keep praying that one day they will see that they can live without the assistance of those crutches and have a good life.  I chose Psychology to help myself and others to deal with the curve balls that life throws at you and I have learned a lot.  I love to help others if they are stuck in a position where they aren't sure what to do or how to respond in a given situation.  Recently I have held group meetings at the libraries where parents having legal trouble with their children can get support and assistance in how to see their loved one and what the rules are and the process to go through if their child happens to be convicted of a crime.
     Unfortunately, I have more experience with this type of situation than I ever wanted but I have grown from it and what I have learned has helped other parents in a similar situation with their children.  I certainly never raised my kids to do some of the things they have and to this day do not understand what happened or where I went wrong or even if I did go wrong.   I have experienced the gamete of emotions that come with this experience so I can help others get past the guilt, shame, anger, embarrassment, shock and the myriad of other emotions that a parent feels when their child is convicted.  I also was bullied growing up at home and at school so I can help whatever age group deal with bullying.  I will build your self confidence and self esteem with little tricks I learned and it really did help.  I can also point you in the direction of other resources that are helpful.  Just know you are loved, you are a valued member of this world and you deserve happiness in your life no matter what.

I look forward with anticipation and hope to hear from some of you out there.  I leave you with this verse and will check in with you soon.  John 3:16  "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life".

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This will be a place to promote healing and build positive affirmations. To heal the hurting soul from any type of loss or sorrow; from losing a loved one, to suffering from being bullied to dealing with changes and family dynamics.