Tonight a simple prayer lord. Let those that are suffering from the weather find safety.  We pray that those that have lost family or friends be comforted as they experience anguish and pain over their losses.  May the sun shine soon in their lives again. Amen

Good evening, today is Saturday April 30, 2016.  I hope you are doing well.  Because it is gray and cold outside
it is a good time to talk about depression.  It is easier on days like today to feel sadder, lonelier, fatigued, no motivation, or more alone.  It is important if you feel this way; to talk to someone close to you. They may make you feel better just by talking to them.  Rest if you can.  It is ok to take a break from life and treat yourself extra  special.  Ask someone over to visit and have a relaxing cup of tea.  You do not have to suffer in silence.  Do something that makes you feel better.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace

Good evening! Today is April 29, 2016.   It is wet, cold and gray today.  It is also Friday; which means the start of a weekend.  I want to talk about love and healing tonight.  I believe there is great healing power in showing love.  I have advanced my own healing by helping others.  Of course, you have to show it in the right way.  I show my love through caring for others. Especially the elderly and the young, I love to hear different stories from the elderly and marvel at where they have been and where they are now.
The young are just as important because they are our future.  I watch them as they learn new things and wonder what they are feeling.
One way I share my love and talents is cooking.  I love the challenge of trying to cook something new and baking for others. That is one way I show that someone is important.  Who will you share your love with?  How will you show you care?  It can be as small as saying Hi I am thinking if you, how are you doing; to doing something very unexpected for someone.  Just a thought.  You may make someones day brighter than it was.  Be kind.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace

Today is Wednesday, April 27, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I found myself thinking today how it would be easier to make decisions if it didn't affect other people that are close to you.  So many times a decision is made with little regard to how it will affect others.  A difficult area in a black and white world....

Good afternoon!  Today is April 28, 2016.  I want to talk about bullying today. It is NOT ok.  As I heard one boys story it was upsetting to hear the " security officer" was not doing his job.  If something happens, no matter who it is, if you have a security officer at the school that is supposed to be watching for suspicious behavior or bullying and is not actively involved in stopping that behavior then they will be held accountable.  The school district, which is in this case Douglas County I believe will also be held accountable.  This type of behavior cannot go on.  Especially if you are tired of rising taxes to make up for the lawsuits. Parents teach your children now before it gets out of hand like Columbine did!

Does anyone else besides me feel like they need a serious vacation?!  Today is Tuesday April 26, 2016.  The storm blew in over the mountains today dropping the temperature by about 20 degrees.  Helped others get prepared for the day,.
Volunteered to drive to appointments and the store.  Brought roast and fixins for lunch with a senior.  Helping others is a great way to spend your day.  You are blessed and loved.  Peace.

When we go so fast through our day I wonder how much quality time it was.  If you don't take time to slow down and pace yourself your days will turn into weeks, then months, then years.  Where is the joy of watching your children grow, was it spent hurrying them out the door to school to band practice, to sports, to music or dance lessons.  If you also work it is doubly hard to do all and be all.  Slow down and enjoy the moments with your children or family.  As the song goes "your gonna miss these days,  your gonna want them back."  You are loved and blessed. Be in  Peace

1. Happy Sunday to you!  Today was a great day and weather wise it was just as nice. I want to talk about how we all go so fast to get everything done that by the end of the day we can't remember where we were at 11 a.m. or what we did.  Continued....

Hi today is Saturday April 23, 2016.  I hope your day was splenid!  I want to talk about laughter today.  I seriously don't know how I would have made it through some trying times without laughter in my life.  When we can laugh at ourselves it begins a healing process fo within. You may not even realize it until you feel a little lighter like some weight is being lifted from yourself.  You will feel a peace come over you.  It took me a long time to get to that place.  After weeping and crying and getting angry the calm sets in and you feel like doing something.  For me at first I was drinking and doing drugs, partying so I would not have to deal with the pain.  After I got pregnant my life changed.  It was very hard when your heart has been ripped open and the hurt and pain is unbearable.  Especially for those of you that have had a loved one violently taken from you.  I started  staying home after work and watching movies on t.v. or go to a show, I volunteered at VFW and started  a new hobby.  I went to counseling for myself and it helped a lot.  What are you going to begin with?   Please start soon because life is too short to live unhappy. You are loved and blessed. Be at peace.

Good evening I hope your Friday was the finish of a good week.  Today I want to talk about being lonely.  You can be lonely in a room full of people or by yourself.  Yes it is weird but true.  If you are lonely I recommend that you find something to fill your time.  Some examples are; call a friend to meet for coffee, read a book, go to a show or out to eat.  Go to the gym or take a walk in a park or in your neighborhood.  If you are lonely and in room of people try talking to someone close to you.  Even a smile can  break the ice.  The key is to be comfortable with yourself first.  When I drove I would not have the radio on so I could concentrate on driving .  I got used to myself and my thoughts.  I got used to being with just myself.  At times I would pray.  There is a peace in solitude and you can think clearly without distractions from others.  Thats a good time to make decisions or jot down your thoughts then talk with your loved one about it.  If you are not comfortable alone then maybe there is a group you can go to like Toasters, a group that helps build confidence speaking skills.  You are loved.  Peace

A Mans Prayer

Dear Lord I am weary today.  I have worked hard and long most of my life.  I have given and helped others which you know.  My children do not appreciate the things they have or the time I share with them.  I am tired of those that complain of not having enough when people are starving.  I am tired of people stealing, robbing or murdering because they need a fix.
  My dear child, he said, Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.  Matthew 11:28-30
You are blessed.  Be at peace.

My heart and prayers go out to those that have lost a loved one through homicide.  I have no experience with this and would urge those of you that have lost a loved one this way to fnd a good counselor and group that can help you deal with your grief and emotions. God  Bless you and give you peace and strength.

My brothers spirit came to me the night he died and said goodbye to me.  The anniversary of his death always has a special meaning to me. If you know someone who is having a hard time dealing with life or see something is a little off; ask if they would like to get a cup of coffee or tea and visit.  It doesn't matter if they are young or old, take time to listen and care about others.  You may be saving a life.   The same with people who are "loners", or those who are being bullied or made fun of because they are different.  Children can be especially cruel to others just to fit in with a certain group of people.  Talk to your children, ask them how their day was and if anything happened during their day.  Chances are they will want to share their day and they may have questions about something that happened. It also works if you notice a change in your childs behavior and you can't pinpoint the problem but something is off.  You can reinforce the childs thoughts about right and wrong during these conversations and how others are treated will naturally follow and how they treat others will be reinforced as well.  You are a blessing.  Peac

My brother and I did not have a good relationship.  I think because I wanted him to like me so much and I wanted to be like him that we fought all the time.  His attitude towards me changed about 6 months before he died.  He started being friendly towards me and I think it was because of his girlfriend at  the time.  He had never really liked me and I was a little apprehensive about his change of heart.  I felt that we had  come to a kind of  truce in our relationship.  That lasted about 5 months.

Today we will approach losing a loved one through homicide or suicide. I have experience with one of these by the suicide of my brother. I do not know how I would deal with the homicide of a loved one. I have had a lot of death affect my life and lost a lot of loved ones. I think besides the loss of my father; the most painful was the loss of my brother. I then lost my uncle two weeks after my brother and that was not comprehensible to me. Being in a state of shock when I lost my brother I was not in a place to accept the reality of losing my uncle. He was the closest to me on my fathers side and it was too much for me to bear. At 18 years old I acted out. I drank and partied because it was easier for me to do than deal with the reality of losing my brother.

Family dynamics and changes also happen  because of career changes and role changes.  The roles within a family may change suddenly because of job loss, relationship changes or even death of a spouse or partner.  Lets address the death of a partner or spouse.  This could be sudden and unexpected.  There are similarities between divorce and death and we will address this later on. If death is the case be extra careful with yourself and any children.  Even if the death is expected this is a very traumatic time and may take a long time to recover from. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process.
 While the pain of losing a loved one will dull with time; it will not fully go away.  You will learn to live with the reality and some days will be better than others so be gentle with yourself and don't expect too much from yourself or children.  If you feel like it, after a little time you may think about joining a grief recovery group.  This can be beneficial to you and you might find a group for children as well.

Today is April 13, 2016.  It's a beautiful morning today and I hope your day is going well.  I would like to talk about dynamics of a family today and how important it is to pay attention to your family atmosphere.  A lot of  children are confused in todays world and other children do not make it easier.  If you take time to talk with your children about their day and make them feel like they are an important part of the family unit your efforts to communicate with them will be rewarded and your relationship with them wil improve.

Today is April 12, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I want to talk about acceptance today.  Thoughts to ponder on are how do you communicate with your child. Do they feel accepted and loved? Or do they feel like they are in the way; that you don't care for them oe dont have time for them?  Pay attention to the children.  They treat others how they are treated.  Maybe we need to slow down and give time to them and make sure they know how much they are loved.  That thwy sre a valued member of the family.

Today is April 12, 2016.  I hope your day was a good one.  I want to talk about acceptance today.  Thoughts to ponder on are how do you communicate with your child. Do they feel accepted and loved? Or do they feel like they are in the way; that you don't care for them or dont have time for them?  Pay attention to the children.  They treat others how they are treated.  Maybe we need to slow down and give time to them and make sure they know how much they are loved.  That they are a valued member of the family.

Good Monday to you.  Today is April 11, 2016 already.  I find myself being grateful for everyone in my life today.  Life is such a precious gift. I encourage you all today to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you. You never know when they will be taken out of your life for good.  You are blessed. Peace.

Today I want to share story. When I moved out of my ex- husbands apartment with my kids I wanted to affect change in my life as well as the childrens life.  I  was tired of the yelling and screaming as a way to communicate. It took a lot of commitment and communication changes to stop the bad communication habits that we had let grow like a weed in a garden.  I wanted to start a new way to talk and listen to each other.   It was a long process to change the way we communicated with each other and stop the blame game. It also took a lot of counseling and commitment to change.   It can be done.  Are you struggling to communicate with someone you love?  Have a talk with the person. Explain to them that you are not happy with the way you  talk with them and how it turns into a blame game or a yelling match.  Get them to think about how you both have lost the way you want to talk to each other.  Then make a plan, set a date on when you both want to start and have some options for how you want to begin the change.  Lastly, give it time to change.  It won't happen over night but things will start to move into a positive state and start to change.  Good luck and God Bless!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference!

This helped me especially at times when I wanted someones behavior to change.  It helped me realize that maybe I cannot change someones behavior; (like my childrens) but I could change my responses to the behavior.  It was hard to remember this so I had to concentrate on the prayer.
Remember you are not perfect and it takes time to cgange; not just for you but anyone else s behavior you want to change.  Patience and communication is key.  You cannot place blame or it will shut down any efforts you are trying to achieve.  Maybe it will help you with what you are dealing with today.  God Bless you.

Today Monday April 4, 2016. How was your day?  Was it a struggle just to get out of bed and face the day?  You got up anyway; didn't you?  If you did, good for you.  The day is at an end.  Tomorrow will be a new day.  Whatever challenges, heartaches or disappoinments you faced today they are done.  Be at peace and rest in the lord.  Cast your worries on the lord.  He is looking after you.  He has you in the palm of his hand.  It may look bleak from where you are but God can take care of you worries.  Trust in him to take care of you.  At the right time and in his time he will take care of your worries.  Bless you tonight.  Peace

Today April 3, 1981 I had a blessing in my life. My son Steve was born.  Children are a huge blessing in a persons life.  Cherish your children they are our future.  Raise them with love and respect for themselves and others.

Good morning.  It is Sunday April 3, 2016. Rejoice and be glad in the day the lord has made.  How are you feeling today?  If you are feeling ovwrshadowed by doubt or fear.  Remember the lord your God is with you.  You are loved.

How is your Saturday going?  Good I hope.  Are you struggling today with something or someone?  The lord says to be strong and be of good courage the lord your God is with you.  Have courage to stand up for what is right.  If you know something is wrong. Bring it to someones attention.  Then it is up to them to bring about change and if you dont see cgange try someone else. Keep going until it is corrected.  You are loved.