Good evening it is May 13, 2016.  I want to talk about boundaries tonight.  There are healthy boundaries and unhealthy boundaries.
Sometimes healthy boundaries are not learned as a child grows.  Children learn by example and are taught whatever the parent learned as they were growing up.  In almost every instance of any kind of abuse it was learned, experienced, or witnessed while the child is/was growing up.  This is unhealthy boundaries.  Some of the most important things are discarded as the dysfunctional family grows.  Things such as morals, values and the difference between right and wrong are not taught and are hopefully learned later in life.  Parents do make mistakes and are not perfect.  Parenting is a learning experience.  There isn't a guide book to teach us how to parent.  Thus, unhealthy boundaries, abuse of every kind, is a learned trait.  It can also be unlearned.  It is definitely a challenge and difficult but it can be done.  The choice is simple.  Create healthy boundaries with help from a parenting class or other professionals, like a counselor, and create the change you want in your family or live the unhealthy dysfunction and pass it on from one generation to the next.  The choice is yours.  You are loved and you do matter.  Peace